Anger Management

Anger is costly. In Lahug, Cebu City the cost of anger affects the poor and innocent school children.

The vindictive anger of Cebu City Mayor Tomas Osmeña to Mary Ann Delos Santos prompt him to stop the construction of a school building in Barangay Lahug. He even vowed to starve the barangay of projects from City Hall.

Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry, wrote Lyman Abbott. But the kind of anger the city’s father is showing to the affected schoolchildren is a bad lesson.

He who angers you conquers you, wrote Elizabeth Kenny. But in the case of the Cebu City mayor, his anger failed to conquer delos Santos. Instead, it challenges her to pursue the construction of the school building through her “PISO Mo, Eskwelahan Ko” campaign. Now, Osmeña becomes the antagonist of Osmeña-delos Santos political epic.

A Korean proverb says, if you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot. The mayor indeed hurt his own foot. He must remember that “resentment, anger, frustration, worry, disappointment—negative emotional states, justified or not, take a toll on [his] heart, brain and body. Then, I give him my unsolicited advice: “Don’t let justified emotions rob your health and well-being.”

As alternative, I suggest that the “good” mayor shall watch the movie, Anger Management. If there is Anger Management Seminar, I strongly advice him to attend. For his convenience, he can surf the net. There are many tips on how to control anger and treatise on the ‘anatomy’ of anger. Here are some:

These online articles are also recommended as a must-read for our leaders. These will help our leaders on how to process the post election anger.

As a result, our leaders can focus more on developmental concerns rather than personal matters.

I hope the “noisy” Cayetano will have time to read those online articles.

Aristotle has a good observation about anger. Anybody can become angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody’s power, that is not easy.

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by Jerry G. Gervacio
Mandaue City, June 2007

2 thoughts on “Anger Management

  1. wow! this is obviously sharp for those people you mentioned,well said and well presented. good thing you included sites that encourage people how to manage anger properly.

    i am a very impatient person also and i easily get angry however i always tell myself not to make a decision or a choice when i am emotionally loaded. (anger is normal it becomes unhealthy if it reached to the level of hatred and revenge and if instead of a forgiving heart pride takes over.

  2. Thank you Louela. I agree with what you’ve said,

    anger is normal it becomes unhealthy if it reached to the level of hatred and revenge and if instead of a forgiving heart pride takes over.

    I admit that I also become impatient over things – because I am human.. hahaha. But my experiences always remind me that anger is dangerous.

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