Sex without strings

Many men and women in their twentysomethings admit having sexual contact with a partner before getting married.Today’s twentysomethings are not always oriented to marriage. Relationships are seen as getting-to-know-you better and not necessarily romantic relationship. That’s why, I don’t wonder why instead of “love”, we talk more about “sex” and “relationships”. Are Filipinos live in a culture of sex without strings and relationships without rings? Yes, I think so. Only few have the courage to admit – thanks to “Christian culture”.

Sex is for fun. It is one of the freedom enjoyed by young and single. Indeed, the freedom and pleasure loved by most smart, young, and single men and women.

There is romantic sex. There is also casual sex. For engaged couple – those who only count days before they will finally sign the marriage contact – romantic sex can be the best description for their sexual activity. Casual sex is the no-string-attached sex – an expected part of the dating scene. When we talk about this among friends, many of them agree that casual sex is no-strings-attached sex. It requires no commitments beyond the sexual encounter itself, no ethical obligation beyond mutual consent. Sex is no longer a big deal as in the past.

It is no longer uncommon to hear someone getting drunk, suddenly feel hot and horny and got great sex! Partner’s name no longer important. That’s casual sex.

Working singles, specially men, most likely to go to nightclubs to socialize with friends. Clubs are good place not only for socializing, and for drinking but also for a good place to find casual sex hookup. Do you go to clubs to find a wife or husband? Fool! Go there to find sex with less and no responsibilities at all.

I used to believe that one night stand is a fiction. Now, I’m convinced that some tales come true!

6 thoughts on “Sex without strings

  1. tikya asa man ka dili uyon? nga nagkadaghan na ang sex without strings attached? or sa akong giingon nga night stand is [no longer] a fiction?

    Pwede ra bisaya, pwede pod French, Spanish, Mandarin.. bisan unsa basta English ug Bisaya ug Filipino ra ang among masabtan.. hehehe.. ambot lang!

  2. Interesting insight about contemporary norms in the Philippines. My parents will be horrified if I write something like this.

    batang buotan says:
    My parents don’t know that I write things like these. LOL

  3. honest post, bai. being surrounded by a lot of male pals, i have found enlightenment in my used-to-be conservative upbringing. 😀
    indeed, one-nite-stands do happen. indeed.

  4. Uso pa ba ang minyo karon?

    kung pangutan-on nimo nang ubang mga babaye nga na-angkan, about kaminyoon, moingon ra man ug, “DUH, DILI NA USO KARON ANG MINYO!”.

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