Crying men: Is crying good for us?

It is a widespread belief […] that crying is therapeutic and […] failure to cry is a danger to our health, Emotional Processing[dot]Org notes.

Men don’t cry. But Rodolfo Noel “Jun” Lozada Jr, and Erwin Santos did on national TV.

Inquirer reports, Wet ones: ‘Crying’ witness on gov’t TV accuses Lozada. It details the motives of Erwin Santos to come out teary-eyed.

Santos couldn’t stop shedding tears not because he finally revealed “the truth” but because he’s always been a reluctant TV star [and] …because he has not received the talent fee he was promised if he appeared on the show, The Professional Heckler observes.

Lozada is the Senate star witness on the ongoing investigation of the alleged anomalous National Broadband Network (NBN) deal. Erwin Santos is a program development officer at the state-owned Philippine Forest Corporation. Both men decided to come out to reveal the truth.

It seems the teary-eyed Lozada persuaded many that he is telling the truth. Will another teary-eyed man, Erwin Santos, gets public sympathy? Public sympathy is important as it translates trust and defines credibility (as perceived by many).

Men seldom cry even to their closest friends. It seems an ordeal to Lozada and Santos to face, teary-eyed, to lights and camera. Unless of course both of them are acting or overreacting. But because both holds dignified positions in the government, it is unlikely for them to act for the sake of publicity. They have stories to tell.

Rebelmind asks, Who says there’s no drama in Philippine politics? Indeed, our nation’s political scenes are getting too dramatic.

We hope that crying whistle-blowers bring common good. Is crying good for us?

There are three kinds of tears distinguished (from a biological perspective) according to Emotional Processing [dot] Org:

  • basal tears – continuous and lubricate our eyes;
  • reflex or infant tears occur when we chop onions or receive a blow to the eye;
  • emotional tears are psychologically caused.

Whistle-blowers like Lozada and Santos cannot be blamed for being too emotional. After all, it is not easy to come out to the scrutinizing eyes of the public.

Can we call their tears as political tears?

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Jerry G. Gervacio|Mandaue City|Contact: Send Mail
Blog I author (Bisaya): Ambot Lang!
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11 thoughts on “Crying men: Is crying good for us?

  1. There is a big deal about crying. The shortest verse in the bible is John11:35 “Jesus Wept”.

    Sometimes, when you can’t express the feeling inside, the eye will do it for you. This is by crying. When your heart is full and your mouth can’t speak your eyes will tear. Speaking of crying babies visit: http://youtube.com/watch?v=iEAVaXA8kBM

    Will someone come clean and tell us the real story dispassionately as possible with no annotations or whatsoever? The nation which is held hostage is weeping more than anyone else.

    batang buotan says:
    Thank you.
    Yes, our nation is weeping.

  2. Thanks for dropping by at my blog. Honestly, men don’t cry ‘coz they believe that it may loosen their masculinity but Biblically speaking, Jesus Himself cried when His considered best friend Lazaru died.

    So, crying is not a crime..and it’s good for the heart as well. In crying you can release easily what’s in your heart.

    batang buotan says:
    Thank you.
    Gone are the days when men insist NOT to cry. I presume there is something within Lozada and Santos because they hadn’t stop themselves crying in public. Poor men, they might consider the consequences of their decision to come out. Uncertainties sometimes make us cry.

  3. I do not know how to interpret their cries whether those were emotional, psychological, political, dramatical or none of the above. While there are allegations against Lozada (which may or may not be substantial) these do not deviate the people’s attention on the national concern which is grave corruption of the present administration.

    I have not seen Gloria Arroyo and FG crying, I will be more challenge to interpret their cries if someday I’ll see tears falling from their eyes. (joke lang ni)

    batang buotan says:
    Thank you.
    Well said. Yes, we must not deviate to real issues. Seeing GMA and FG crying on national TV (the way Lozada and Santos did) is a thing I can’t hardly imagine. Shall I cry with them? – a remote possibility. LOL

  4. For me, a man is more strong, and courageous when he is not afraid to show his emotions..coz man has feeling too!

    batang buotan says:
    Thank you.
    I agree.
    Men who cry in public
    are very courageous.
    It’s not easy you know.

  5. Lolz….Is that mean all The Former/Current Phil.Forest Employees would Do some Crying if They are in front of National TV?

    Maybe,
    yes.

    batang buotan says:
    Thank you.
    I don’t think so.

  6. men cry and should cry a lot more…
    if they did,
    they would be less violent and less ‘mental’.

    batang buotan says:
    Thank you.
    Well said.
    Yes, indeed.
    so that crying
    will not be a gender issue.

  7. crying makes me feel oooooooh sooooo gooooooooood!

    batang buotan says:
    Thank you.
    Cry ‘for the better’. LOL

  8. An expatriate like me wonder and any outsiders might ask: is men crying a national pastime? Is it norm, even before arrival of Christianity and Muslim? What about original filipino boatpeople who settle here in this Philippine archipelago thousand years ago.

    I have seen young Mexican crying so hard in rear of city bus back in United States. Maybe because a girl dump him? Majority of Mexicans are Catholic God-fearing people like Filipino.

    I am going to marry a filipina and I would want to know, since we will have Filipino-American children. Are Filipinos/Filipinas sensitive at certain time?

    Can anyone explain?

    Postscript: it is no crime for crying.

  9. The moment we first grasp the beauty of the world our first way of communication, of expressing our feelings was crying. There is nothing wrong with crying. men,women, old, young, babies or adults cry, which is a proof that they are real human beings that have affect. Health wise doctors said crying is good for the health because it relieves stress felt deep inside.

    Filipinos are always sensitive to issues that triggers their concern. Empathy is a virtue. Is it a pastime? for some maybe but for some its a form of relieving their own internal issues. Filipinos either resort to crying or laughing if they are face sad experience,difficulties or sensitive issues. Is it wrong to cry? of course not? Let me just tell you not all tears are genuine there are phony cries as well so beware.

    Invisible tears are the hardest to wipe away. Just let it out, my
    friend.
    ~Adabella Radici

    Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart don’t know how
    to laugh either. ~Golda Meir

    batang buotan says:
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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